Why do we, as modern dads, blog? What draws us to the web, to tell our stories to strangers we will (probably) never meet?
For me, it’s simple. When we found out that my wife was pregnant, we had no idea what we were up against. Add to that the surprise of there being twins. We were first time parents, and we needed help.
We did what most modern families do: we went to the web. For my wife, it was baby and pregnancy forums, specifically BabyCenter. She made friendships with people who were going through the same things, first time parents of twins (and single babies) who were due around the same time as our boys. Most of these friends are people she’s only talked to online, and never met in person, but the shared experiences make them close.
I went scouring the web for dad of twin blogs, and it was slim pickings. There are a few great ones, specifically Joe Rawlinson’s Dad’s Guide to Twins. Once our boys were born, 10 weeks early, spending 6 weeks in the NICU, I ended up writing a blog post for Joe about the experience, How To Survive Preemie Twins in the NICU, because it wasn’t a subject that was covered in dad blogs. I knew that putting my experience in words, on the web, would help the next version of me.
There is a great community of dad (and mom) bloggers out there, and there is probably someone who’s lived the experience you’re up against. We blog our experiences to remind ourselves and others that we are not alone. We are a community, with events like the Dad 2.0 Summit, and local dad meetups. We have Facebook groups and pages, to bounce ideas off of each other about our experiences. We make friends through shared experiences, and bonds that can be stronger than real life friends.
We blog because we want to fight the stereotypical “dumb dad” that we see on TV shows (Everybody Loves Raymond, According to Jim, commercials everywhere). We blog because we have campaigns by major brands that treat us modern dads like the stereotype dads, and we can fight it (see Huggies, Clorox, etc). We know that what we do can help change that stereotype, in the eyes of even one marketing rep.
We all hope that our blogs will be the one that helps someone, that one post will help someone be a better parent. We hope that we can help make the guy who comes next be a better guy, a better dad.